In the void, you will feel like you are failing. You are not failing. You are fallow . A field cannot grow a new crop until it has been left empty for a season to let the soil regenerate. You are not broken. You are being prepared. You cannot build a new cathedral with the blueprint of an old toolshed.
We try to stop the collapse. We white-knuckle our way through therapy. We take up running. We drink more wine. We scroll through old photos to remind ourselves of the "good times." We do everything to preserve the architecture of the old self. The Changeover
The most profound lesson of the changeover is this: You do not need to add things to your life to change. You need to subtract them. In the void, you will feel like you are failing
For me, it was a Tuesday afternoon in March. I was sitting in my car in a parking lot outside a grocery store, holding a receipt for $47 worth of groceries I didn't want to cook, and I suddenly couldn't breathe. Not a panic attack, exactly. It was more like an eviction notice . My body was telling my soul that the lease was up. A field cannot grow a new crop until