You could be a cold glass of water in a desert, and a man dying of thirst would still find a reason not to drink if he’s too busy staring at the sun.
If we admit he’s just not that into us, we have to do the hard thing: He-s Just Not That Into You
So, you do what any rational, intelligent, emotionally mature woman does: You open Google. You could be a cold glass of water
You stop asking, “What is he thinking?” and start asking, “Am I having fun?” If you have to convince your friends that he likes you, he doesn’t. If you have to analyze his text message punctuation, he’s not the one. If you feel confused, anxious, or like you’re pulling teeth to get a date— walk away. If you have to analyze his text message
But on day four? You realize you haven't checked your phone in three hours. You finish a whole chapter of a book. You go for a walk without analyzing the lyrics to sad songs.
Why? Because three hours ago, you sent a text that said, “Hey, what are you up to?”
Letting go of the one who isn't choosing you creates space . It empties out the couch cushion. It silences the phone notifications. And it feels terrible for about three days.